THE MASK WE WEAR IN THE NAME OF DATING

How times flies, like a bird passing by in the night. It was just yesterday that I was fixing my head with flowers as I prepare to go to the market, and how energetic I was and full of joy as I rub my shear butter on my dark and lovely skin. How the men never take their eyes off me; from the town squares to the hilltop and down to the riverside. Well, that was my generation, now we are in a new generation; the millennial generation.

There's a saying,' What the elders see while they're sitting, the young ones standing on their toes won't see. But to what I've noticed in your generation, even youngsters can't deny that they've seen it, maybe they haven't taken a critical look as I did. So I have looked and seen and taken into account the things of today. Without a doubt, this generation is blessed with a lot of advancements; from technology to communication and good health. Yet, in the context of Christian living, this generation is under a massive threat and a much more opposing edge way. As I keep my ears to the ground, I came across the word dating. Which now affect people of all background and religion. It seemed to me that everyone is dating, even the 16-year-old girls may have gotten three exes already. Funny but true!

Dating with a healthy sense of its perusal in itself is not bad, but it is, in reality, a massive threat and more difficult and strenuous to the believer. Once you start to date, everything in you is subjected to strict scrutiny; your temperament and purity are the spearheads of this cautious trek.

One of the most common reasons people wear masks is what I think of as Imposter Syndrome—the fear that the world is going to find them out. If you lift a stone in the garden, you find all sorts of creepy crawlies underneath. Sin is a little like that. Some are hidden because of how they are described. One way people try to hide sins is by disguises.

In the name of dating, they express the prowess of our hidden lust. In the name of dating, they've kissed and caressed, In the name of dating they lost their virginities. In the name of dating, they continued to have sex. In the name of dating, they’ve had numerous abortions with their partner. In the name of dating, they’ve nailed their conscience to the walls of their misery. My! How dating has pushed my sons and daughters into sins, they've never imagined doing. If dating provides you with this voice, why is your conscience wrong with sex working?

Some less than others, but most individuals who are currently dating do so because of romance and. sex Remove sex and romance from their dating relationship, and they have nothing to offer. A generation that has given up on love for lust! It's become a sport -- a favourite hobby among them. Good luck enjoying sex when sex is no longer a special or unique experience, but just another trivial evening.

Let me pick it from here; we live in a time and a day where almost everyone is agitated when the subject of 'love' is mentioned yet very few have in-depth knowledge about it. In today's modern-day, millennial dating world and pornified culture, it is challenging to talk about this without getting someone offended. Yet, a lot of us wrestle with sexual temptations to a higher degree, and we hide it under a modernised term 'dating'.

Have you in your relationship kissed, had sex, caress, or even sex talked things that had led to the rise of certain reactions in your body? If yes, then you are not dating you are fornicating. And yes that's a sin. The word fornication has almost disappeared being covered by myriad euphemisms. Fornicating in a relationship is two sins wrapped in one; the crime itself is not the deal but the hypocrisy.

We weren’t born with masks. We put them on, so we can take them off. Let us not hide behind dating and do the unspeakable. Take another sincere look at your relationship. If you see any of these defects, turn back to what is right, honorable and praiseworthy. It will be appropriate to talk to a mature godly person concerning these issues and also subject your relationship to an accountable mature person. We would be glad to help you too.