Curiosity Killed The Fool

A sensible person sees danger and avoids it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and suffer the consequences. Says the wise man in Proverbs 22:3.

An American actor and film maker, John Wayne, also once asserted; “life is tough, it’s even tougher if you are stupid.” Think about it. A popular saying that is used to warn people of the dangers of unnecessary adventure and experimentation is, "curiosity killed the cat." But I love to make it more explicit, “curiosity killed the fool!” The words below you are about reading are real life stories of young people who have experimented with sexual immorality at a point in their lives and they tell their own stories when they hit the dead end.

Story 1: A young man sent this message to The Separated Youngsters and asked us to share to encourage others to stand for absolute purity. He captioned it “MY CURIOSITY”.

“Dear Youngsters, growing up as a gentleman, and the only son at home, dad had to teach me certain things before I found out in a wrong way. He taught me how to be a man. All the necessary tips you can think of was made available for me. How to make a lady like you and whatever to do to keep her. I won’t blame my dad. I think he taught me the right thing at the wrong time, or I applied it the wrong way. 

I started my sexual expedition right in SHS. With a fair complexion, curly hair and sweet lips, I got all the nice ladies running to my side. I was a brilliant student, and the smartest dude in my school so I attracted much attention. Anyone at all would do anything to get close to me, including male colleagues. I found myself one lovely lady as my 'serious girlfriend' and I did everything to make her happy. After school my dad traveled leaving me all alone in the house. That was a good opportunity for me and my girlfriend to do every nasty thing we wanted. She could visit anytime any day, and we had sex countless times.

In fact, we became sexually addicted to each other and could not let a visit pass by without any sexual engagement. We were hooked and were yearning to see each other every time. Little did I know that my fun was wearing me down. I started getting weaker and weaker and feeling sick each time. I felt stressed and tired. Fortunately, my dad came back and things got a little better because I didn’t have that complete freedom again. I desired to let go of the wasteful life and have a better life, so I started pulling back from sexual matters but my girlfriend thought I was seeing someone else. No explanation helped. 

I started being serious with God because I felt all wasn’t well with me. Though I was going to church, I was so missing out in His presence. When I started taking God’s word seriously, my life started taking shape again. Quite recently, a friend gave me the book; “I WISH I WERE A VIRGIN”. While reading it, I said to myself, "this book should have come earlier." My eyes have been opened to certain realities about relationships, sex, masturbation, pornography, and purity, which I think every young person should know. I have been so much empowered and encouraged to pursue absolute purity and I know the Lord will help me.

Story 2: This young ladies story is featured in the book “I WISH I WERE A VIRGIN”. She told her story when the author asked young people who have engaged in sexual immorality before, whether they were really satisfied in the end. 

“I am a 22 years old lady who spent the first two years of my university life living so sinfully regardless of my strong Christian upbringing. Because I had little idea about the emotional and spiritual price for living immorally, all that mattered to me was being safe from unwanted pregnancies. So I never joked with my contraceptives. I guess I was only trying to rebel and find myself outside the church and my family, but instead I ended up losing myself. I gained a terrible image all around, but that was nothing to be compared with the worthlessness I felt when I finally slowed down and took a look at my life.

By God’s mercies and grace, I am currently trying my best to clean up my mess and I have realized that I will never find a man who respects me if I cannot respect myself. And I cannot respect myself if I continue to treat my body like nothing more than a means of pleasure. I wish with all my heart that I were still a virgin. No one ever stressed how used you feel after opening your legs and sleeping around.

P. B. Obeng, author of the book “You Decide!” wrote something I love so much. He said, “Don’t experiment with your life if someone had already done that and has provided sound proves that there is no need to experiment with yours anymore.” The bottom line is this, sexual immorality is not pleasurable as it seems. Abstinence before marriage is what we are made for. This is why the immoral person can’t escape the guilt, shame, insecurity and other consequences it brings. Make a decision to live clean for the Lord, and you will never regret you did.

We strongly recommend the book “I WISH I WERE A VIRGIN” to you.

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