I LOST INTEREST

                         
Being sexually active in my past life, I found out that girls who gave in to my sexual advances become less attractive to me afterwards. Hence, I easily left them and moved on to someone else whom I have not had any sexual affair with yet. I observed this to be true with my friends who were sexually active too. In addition to that, most of these friends including myself would never marry a girlfriend we have had sex with because we prefer a chaste one, preferably, a virgin. Even if she isn’t a virgin, at least she hasn’t open her legs for me yet.
Now if you are a lady reading this, you should be surprised or even angry at this point. Am sorry but that is the hard truth. Don’t be naive. A guy will not respect you as much as he used to before he had his way with you. So keep yourself and don’t open up no matter what, until after marriage. I have never been a lady before so I can’t really talk about how it feels at the ladies’ end. But guys I know that ladies respect you more if they see your self-control over sexual urges. The point here is, sex before marriage is not in any-way a proof of love, neither is any premarital sexual activity an expression of true love. Any sexual advances towards someone you are not married to, is dishonoring his/her body and it doesn’t show love nor respect. Anyone who would try to coax you into premarital sex no matter how close you are to getting married is looking out for his own selfish fleshy interest and desire. Think about this, would someone who truly loves you endanger your physical and emotional well-being and jeopardize your relationship with God? Just think about it. If your beloved tries to entice you into any form of premarital sexual activity by saying, “if you love me, you’ll do this, besides we will eventually be together”, look straight into his/her eyes and reply “if you truly love me, you won’t ask for this. Besides we are not married yet.”
Let me categorically emphasize on this point again that engaging in sexual affairs with your beloved is not in any-way a sign of commitment, nor a proof of genuine love or security for a lasting relationship. Rather, it is fornication which is sinful in the sight of God. If you build your relationship toward marriage on the foundation of fornication, you can be sure of losing God’s favor upon your marriage. I don’t think such a marriage will survive without God’s favor. No wonder the numerous breakups of marriages today.
If you and your beloved are nowhere near marriage and you are having difficulties abstaining from premarital sexual activities (kissing, foundling, sexting, sex etc.), it will be to the advantage of you both to take an honest look at your circumstances and ask yourselves whether it’s a good idea to continue dating. The wise decision to take here will be to halt the relationship and stay away from each other for some-time until you both have prepared yourselves to stand by what is right and step into a life-long commitment. Don’t hesitate to seek guidance from trusted, mature Christian adults in such circumstances.
Finally, I would love for you to know that if you give in to your beloved’s sexual advances because you love him/her and don’t want to lose him/her, you are only training him/her to be an unfaithful partner in future. If you don’t help them develop self-control while dating, then they can’t control themselves with other people in the future when you are away from home as a husband or a wife.
Prioritize self-control, avoid every form of uncleanness and sexual misconduct. (See: Galatians 5:19-22)

Excerpts from the book "I WISH I WERE A VIRGIN".
TOPIC: Will Sex  Improve our Relationship?